Recent weeks have been a blur. The Big Comic Relief Crafternoon launched on 29th January and I found myself running four social media channels at once to help to spread the word about it. I was receiving hundreds of messages a day. Pictures of readers' wonderful versions of Florence's floral moustaches, Jodie's jaunty guinea pigs, Lucy's Spring posy brooch, Jenny's mice, Lauren's beards and so many other handmade wonders started being posted on my various timelines. It was an utter joy, although I began to be aware of the sheer size of the project and at times felt quite startled.
Readers' guinea pigs
There was a slight flaw in the distribution plan - we only had enough sponsorship to stock around a third of all Sainsbury's branches so many people have been struggling to find themselves a copy. Just before half term the clamour for help in tracking down the magazine reached fever pitch on facebook. It's very rare that this lovely handmade area of the internet contains negativity but I was surprised to experience some over there. Actually quite a lot of it. I was rather ill-prepared, but the Mollie Makes team helped enormously by publishing a list of stores that are stocking it and I became adept at apologising.
I have to confess that on the evening of Thursday 12th February I did a fair bit of snotty crying as a cumulative result of the ruder messages I'd received. Then Mr M called a halt. He wrapped me in quilts. handed me a large vase of wine and said 'Tell them it's you running the social media. Remove the anonymity, then they might stop.' A couple of friends advised the same.
I have to confess that on the evening of Thursday 12th February I did a fair bit of snotty crying as a cumulative result of the ruder messages I'd received. Then Mr M called a halt. He wrapped me in quilts. handed me a large vase of wine and said 'Tell them it's you running the social media. Remove the anonymity, then they might stop.' A couple of friends advised the same.
In the midst of the furore I received a squashy parcel. I wondered what I might have ordered from Etsy as bleary 2am antidote-to-facebook-trickiness retail therapy. I spied some tissue paper and experienced a bubble of excitement. It was from dear Lesley of Moogsmum. It was a skein of wool in the colours of a Cornish rock pool- the colours of sealglass and sea lettuce and pebbles and those intriguing azure deep lagoon-ish pools that might contain a starfish or a really big crab. The colours of relaxation and cheeriness for me. I did a bit more crying, which may sound tragic but I was quite tired. Lesley, you're wonderful. I might be wrong but I'm pretty sure you spun this wool yourself. Thankyou for this beautiful woolly treat. It was more welcome than you know. Lesley is off to a handmade fair with her lovely wares today. I hope it goes brilliantly for her.
I have learned a phenomenal amount from this experience - how a magazine is made and distributed, how an editorial team works and the astonishing talent and kindness of the creative community. Sadly though it has also taught me that some people post comments on social media without a thought. If they're disgruntled then they feel bad manners are justified. It's a well-discussed theme but I think the anonymity and apparent distance afforded by a social media website and a piece of technology is not always a good thing. I feel certain that their words would not have been so harsh if these people had been sitting in front of me. It has made me a tougher, more cynical person.
It has also made me immensely grateful for this particular corner of the internet, right here. The place where in 2005 a few crafters began to share what they had made and a community began to form. A place where we could find like-minded people who, like me, would rather cast on some mittens or raid their bead stash than hoover behind the sofa. If people weren't so keen on what they saw they clicked away. Rude comments were almost non-existent. People were respectful, encouraging, positive and real friendships were made. It was a truly excellent place-a place that I came to in 2008 and that gently but consistently egged me on to make more things. It gave me the confidence to turn my jewellery-making and creativity into a small business despite having no arts qualifications whatsoever. Thankyou.
If you buy the magazine we've made and make something from it or simply find a page that makes you happy it would be so lovely if you could blog about it. It really would help enormously. There are two weeks left to buy it. As I mentioned, it's only in around a third of Sainsbury's stores.
The guaranteed £5 donation from the sale of just one copy of The Big Comic Relief Crafternoon can buy two malaria nets and save two lives.
Edited to add: dear dear Jodie Carleton who worked tirelessly to perfect the designs for Ron and Audrey the guinea pigs and is a bona fide handmade hero, as are all our designers, posted this about what happened on facebook. She received a lot of messages too. This woman lives in Australia. What I wouldn't give for a beer and a cuddle with her right now.
Hi Emma, I'm sorry to hear about this nasty fbook experience, it's very fustrating that people post horrid comments not realising that someone else is on the other end receiving it all. It's really a brilliant achievement for you and so many others to make the magazine for charity and no one should be having a go at you, sod 'em! Hope you are feeling better and are getting a break from all the work going on, love safxxx
ReplyDeleteThe question I always ask and wonder about is why people always seem to want something in return for charity? Why not just make a donation? Or give your time. Time can do so much in a very practical way. If not to this cause, then to one which speaks particularly to you. When selling at fund raising stalls for a charity I am involved with, it amazes me that people will haggle over a book costing 20p or want a glass dish for 10p even then, they will need to think about it and let you know they feel they are being ripped off!
ReplyDeleteThe volunteers sorting out clothing and such for people at a drop in regularly have scrappy arguments about 'some people' keeping the best items for themselves. Volunteers sometimes not being without their needs themselves, this is allowed, but it does get out of hand.
Charity does not necessarily bring out the best in people.
I think you all did a wonderful job with the crafternoon magazine. Social media can bring out the worst in people and I agree that a lot of people would think twice before saying something awful face to face. Luckily for me, I managed to get my copy on the first day !!! Sarah
ReplyDeleteVery well done for getting through it and shame on those who were mean. The problem with social media is that one can just ping out a message without thought.
ReplyDeleteBig pat on the back for you.
Liz x
Oh God Mrs P, now I'm blubbing!
ReplyDeleteI did spin the wool and when you were going through all that horrible mean crap on FB I desperately wanted to pop round and give you a great big hug.
Failing that I spotted that skein of handspun in my 'well, I've spun it now what do I do with it' basket and it just asked to come and live with you. I'm so glad that you can see those gorgeous seasidey colours in it too :)
There's so much good in this crafting world of ours and although it's a shame we can't just shut the door on those rude, entitled people who pour oil on the water, it's still a great world to be in.
You and everyone involved in this brilliant magazine have done something so amazing that will be so far reaching and make a very real difference to the lives of some people living in terrible circumstances who would no doubt love to give you all a big woolly hug too.
Love you missus xxx
You're absolutely right, if those commenters knew you at all, knew how hard you and others have worked and were sat right in front of you, they would have nothing nasty to say. It is shameful how people behave online sometimes. I do hope you can try and forget about them, it's nasty and unpleasant and I hate to think of them upsetting you. You're a real star for all you have done, inspirational, you should be very proud of everything you have achieved. I'm so glad you have some lovely wool to cheer you up. Wishing you a good Sunday Emma. CJ xx
ReplyDeleteThere is never an excuse for bad manners Emma. What you, Jodie and everyone involved in this venture have done is amazing. Sending hugs!
ReplyDeleteEma people sometimes say the rudest things when they can hide behind their keyboard. You did s fine thing snd the magazine is ace and will raise lots of cash and smiles.
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PS if you received a fb request from Sarah Jones it's me, not some mad stalker type,well erm...... :) x
Ps excuse typos I'm rubbish at typing on my Kindle !
ReplyDeleteHow absolutely stinking! It all sounded wonderful and though I have NO chance of getting a mag, here in snowy Michigan, I am cheering you on. So unnecessary to be mean and cowardly too......but like the vision of hiding behind the keyboard!
ReplyDeleteHave another glass of wine, you done good!
Came back to say I don't exactly LIKE the thought of hiding behind the keyboard.......but more that I thought it was a good way of putting it!
ReplyDeleteEmma, bravo to you and all who worked so hard to bring the project to its success.
ReplyDelete(Of course, there are always those who find it easy and who knows what else, to complain.)
I have yet to put my toe into the waters of FB or any place other than our blogging world. Hoping that even with your unpleasant experiences, there might still be hope that there are many more kind, interesting, generous and creative folks than...well, you know what/whom I mean.)
xo
Wow! I don't do Facebook, so missed all this. Also found my magazine easily, so wasn't aware that others were having problems getting hold of it.
ReplyDeleteLove the magazine and can truly appreciate all the work that went into it, so really sorry to hear that any of you are receiving harsh words.
I'll try and blog a project this week. My own humble way of contributing.
PS love the mixture of colours in the yarn.
I'd have been far less restrained than you have been. I think you know that I 'give' my knitting patterns away but ask those who can afford to to donate a few pennies to MSF or another charity of their choice in return. Well the sense of entitlement of some of the people who download the patterns, choose not to make a donation, but find themselves needing pattern support never ceases to amaze me, many can't even preface their enquiry with a please or end it with a thank you, and some are quite unpleasant. So sadly your experience doesn't surprise me at all, but for what it's worth I know how tough it must have been and I think you are (all of you behind this project) amazing, talented, generous people x
ReplyDeleteFirstly - that yarn is absolutely fabulous and I love the way you have photographed it with a line of sea glass pieces (some of the very best beach combing finds). And as a spinner myself I am pretty darn sure it IS hand spun. Secondly, I have missed out on the crafter-noon thing so don't know a lot about the project but some folk's reactions astound me. What is this that some people expect so much? Yet sometimes make so little effort themselves. I hope you have had enough positive feedback to feel cared for and that the project was worthwhile
ReplyDeleteso sorry about all the mean comments Emma xxx I've posted about the magazine and my cats enjoyed a photoshoot with a guinea pig!
ReplyDeleteCongratulations on all you have achieved for a very worthwhile cause and ignore ill mannered comments from Mr or Mrs A Nonny Mouse. I love that blue wool.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry to hear about all those horrible noxious people who have been abusing you. Somehow all this passed me by but what a fantastic thing you and your support team have done for Comic Relief. Well done, dear friend, you're a star! And I don't covet that gorgeous yarn at all ;-) Enjoy but don't drool on it too much :-) xxx
ReplyDeleteSo sorry for the downside to all your hard work (and that of the other contributors). The upside is that you did something amazing, and did it to help others. And did it to the best of your ability. Congratulations on all that you achieved for this good cause.
ReplyDeleteOh my word, that yarn is beyond beautiful. What a lovely gift.
No art qualifications?!? Surely you jest!
Yet again selfishly mean cowards hiding behind anonymity and their keyboards (i think that image is appropriate too!) spoil something amazing!
ReplyDeleteThere are so many positives to social media (as wonderful blogs like yours show) but this is one of the downsides. I'm sure that most people are decent and good-mannered but I remember being told that one negative comment needs at least ten positive to cancel it out. It's easy to say that you shouldn't take any notice of those rude people but you can't just stop the comments hurting.
I'm so sorry that you have had to endure all this when you were doing something SO worthwhile. How many of the complainers have actually got off their backsides and 'made a difference' in their lives. You have done something amazing and you should be feeling proud of yourself!!
Deb
I was following your blog (and Moogsmum, and Michaela, and Lucy Locket and several others) 'way back when you were just beginning to grow into jewelry-designing, and I SO enjoyed watching your artistic progression! I didn't have a blog at the time myself, so always felt a bit on the outskirts, but certainly cheering you on from there :)
ReplyDeleteAnd now, at a very different stage in your creative career, what an amazing thing you have done as part of this wonderful collaborative effort! I hope you and the others can brush off any odor left by bitter whingers and be refreshed instead by the vastly greater - and sweeter - positive response wafting your way from many, many, MANY happy people!
I'm so sorry you've been badly treated - you don't deserve it and this was a lovely idea that you were working so hard at
ReplyDeleteI hope you can move on and forget the nastiness
The capacity some people have for rudeness, vindictiveness and just sheer horribleness will always amaze me. Like you, I always think the best of people so it is a nasty surprise when they don't respond in kind. You absolutely deserve thanks, appreciation, lots of hugs and lots of cake too for all that you have selflessly done on this and previous projects Emma and it's nice to read the other comments here which are all telling you exactly what you should be hearing. Put the nasties out of your mind, go fondle that glorious and generously given skein of Mrs Moogs yarn and know that there are lots of us here who think you are rather wonderful xxx
ReplyDeleteI am sorry to hear that folk have been so nasty. Just take a peek at those darling guinea pigs, drink a big glass of wine and IGNORE THEM!
ReplyDeletePopped back to congratulate you on the fabulous Crafternoon magazine. I was shopping in our Sainsburys and popped it into my trolley and enjoyed a great read and inspiration when I got home. I am now very worried because by the time I bought the mag I had forgotten I'd read this blog and fell about in astonishment when I saw who the editor was! OMG! My friend Emma! Who'd have thought! Wow! Well done Emma! Big smiles!!! I know this woman! I met her! :-D I may need to go and visit my friendly (?) GP to see if I have memory issues. Surely not! Congratulations Emma to you and everyone involved for all your hard work, the magazine has something for everyone and I reckon it will continue to be a great source of funds for Comic Relief. xxx
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